“Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:14
We often confuse waiting with passivity. We equate waiting with sitting around aimlessly. Rather, waiting is a passionate time and a mighty catalyst. Think about it: you get a chicken by waiting for the egg to hatch, not by smashing it! Sue Monk Kidd writes, “Waiting is the passionate and contemplative crucible in which new life and spiritual wholeness can be birthed…waiting, with all its quiet passion and hidden fire, is the real crucible of spiritual transformation.” Think of a butterfly: it gains its wings and its ability to fly through waiting, a transformative process in the cocoon. If it takes its exodus too soon, it cannot fly.
As we are all coming upon the midpoint of our winter break, let us wait for the Lord. Not passively, but passionately. Personal growth is never achieved instantaneously; we must retrain our hearts and minds to “be still, and know that [He] is God” (Psalm 46:10). Take yourself out of the rhythm of this world. “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2). The renewing of your mind can only come through patient and purposeful waiting.
Slow down. Center your life around Christ. Make His presence your home. Abide in Him. Dwell in the shadow of the Almighty. Seek Him wholeheartedly. Pursue Him just as His relentless love continually pursues you. This next chapter in our lives is bound to have blessings and challenges, obstacles and miracles, trial and error, storms and beauty. No matter what comes, we each need to be prepared individually, strong and faithful to our own relationships with our awesome Father. Time is of the essence, and this break will fly by before you know it. Press into Him. Lay yourself at His feet; ask Him to meet you where you are at. He will meet you, and more abundantly than you could ever comprehend. Ask Him to reveal to you what He is seeking to mold, transform, grow, and equip within you.
Be strong.
Take heart.
And wait for the Lord.
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Monday, December 14, 2009
Fire on the Altar
“Next he put the wood in order, cut the bull in pieces, and laid it on the wood. He said, ‘Fill four jars with water and pour it on the burnt offering and on the wood.’ Then he said, ‘Do it a second time’; and they did it a second time. Again he said, ‘Do it a third time’; and they did it a third time, so that the water ran all around the altar, and filled the trench also with water. At the time of the offering of the oblation, the prophet Elijah came near and said, “O Lord, God of Abraham, Isaac, and Israel, let it be known this day that you are God in Israel, that I am your servant, and that I have done all these things at your bidding. Answer me, O Lord, answer me, so that this people may know that you, O Lord, are God, and that you have turned their hearts back. Then the fire of the Lord fell and consumed the burnt offering, the wood, the stones, and the dust, and even licked up the water that was in the trench. When all the people saw it, they fell on their faces and said, ‘The Lord indeed is God; the Lord indeed is God.’” (1 Kings 18:33-39)
This story is an absolutely magnificent testimony to the might, power, and dependability of God. Over and over again, He loves to reveal His glory to those who seek Him wholeheartedly. Elijah has utter confidence in the character of God, even amidst the persecution and sin surrounding him. He trusts God; all of his hope is in God. He knows that God will come through, that God’s ways are far above his own, that God is provident and faithful. Elijah is so extraordinarily confident in God’s promises and power that he makes the proposition of fire falling on a soaking wet altar. I like to imagine the thoughts of those Baal-worshipers as Elijah repeatedly had water poured over the altar. “Fire can’t fall on water, that’s preposterous! Who is this crazed man, to say that his God could perform such an improbable act?” is what I can imagine bystanders thinking, scoffing at the very idea.
I want to see the application of this story to my own life, and I think this is possible by examining Elijah’s faithfulness and total trust in God no matter how dire the situation. Surely Elijah was mocked and persecuted greatly as he had water poured out over the altar; he was alone and had no guarantees of success. Yet he had such an intimate relationship with God that he could rest in total dependence on God’s mighty promises. He had no problem pouring water over the altar not only once, but two, and three times. He knew that God’s glory would be revealed even more gloriously against greater odds.
To honestly live out a life that testifies to the holiness, goodness, grace, love, and glory of God, requires great sacrifice and trust. We must be willing to put our own desires and perceptions on the line, knowing that God’s ways are better than ours. We must be willing to confront and even embrace obstacles that will most assuredly come. Elijah is the ideal example of this: Under the attack of numerous Baal-worshipers, he could have listened to that inner voice of fear, of doubt, of worry, of insecurity. He could of merely asked God to let His fire fall down on a normal altar, untouched by water. He could of sprinkled a little water on the altar, or only poured out water once. But no, Elijah poured out the water three times, drenching the altar in water which would typically render it useless and inflammable.
So often when we are presented with an obstacle, we fail to see it as an opportunity to let God’s glory be revealed in and through us. We stand before the altar, more aware of the taunting voices inside and around us rather than realizing the abundant power that is available to us if we only seek and trust in God! Elijah stood sure and confident in the presence of the Almighty, and He came through mightily. Fire fell down on the altar, consuming water, wood, stones, and all. God showed up in all of His glory and power, and the people bowed in reverence to the authentic, living God.
I find myself frequently confining myself, and God, to my comfort zone. If an obstacle or issue in my life seems too overwhelming, I tell God that I can’t handle it. What I fail to grasp is that HE CAN HANDLE ANYTHING. I should embrace obstacles as opportunities to allow God to shine in and through me. What does it matter how I feel about the improbabilities of a situation? My God is mighty to save, and His love conquers all. He will come through in all of His glory and might if I only rely and trust in His character and dependability. It is when I truly lay my fears, doubts, insecurities, worries, and desires on the altar along with the water that He is free to let His fire fall in all His glory and power and might.
What is most admirable about this account is Elijah’s heart, crying out to God to honor his devotion to God’s call, that those people may turn their hearts back to God as well. With such sincerity and honest intention, Elijah comes to God, asking that He bless Elijah’s dedication and draw a lost people back into reverence and worship. I yearn for that---to pursue God wholeheartedly, that He would see that my desires are purely for His Kingdom to come as it has come graciously unto me. His relentless love is evident in Elijah’s life, and I pray it will be evident in mine as well.
This story is an absolutely magnificent testimony to the might, power, and dependability of God. Over and over again, He loves to reveal His glory to those who seek Him wholeheartedly. Elijah has utter confidence in the character of God, even amidst the persecution and sin surrounding him. He trusts God; all of his hope is in God. He knows that God will come through, that God’s ways are far above his own, that God is provident and faithful. Elijah is so extraordinarily confident in God’s promises and power that he makes the proposition of fire falling on a soaking wet altar. I like to imagine the thoughts of those Baal-worshipers as Elijah repeatedly had water poured over the altar. “Fire can’t fall on water, that’s preposterous! Who is this crazed man, to say that his God could perform such an improbable act?” is what I can imagine bystanders thinking, scoffing at the very idea.
I want to see the application of this story to my own life, and I think this is possible by examining Elijah’s faithfulness and total trust in God no matter how dire the situation. Surely Elijah was mocked and persecuted greatly as he had water poured out over the altar; he was alone and had no guarantees of success. Yet he had such an intimate relationship with God that he could rest in total dependence on God’s mighty promises. He had no problem pouring water over the altar not only once, but two, and three times. He knew that God’s glory would be revealed even more gloriously against greater odds.
To honestly live out a life that testifies to the holiness, goodness, grace, love, and glory of God, requires great sacrifice and trust. We must be willing to put our own desires and perceptions on the line, knowing that God’s ways are better than ours. We must be willing to confront and even embrace obstacles that will most assuredly come. Elijah is the ideal example of this: Under the attack of numerous Baal-worshipers, he could have listened to that inner voice of fear, of doubt, of worry, of insecurity. He could of merely asked God to let His fire fall down on a normal altar, untouched by water. He could of sprinkled a little water on the altar, or only poured out water once. But no, Elijah poured out the water three times, drenching the altar in water which would typically render it useless and inflammable.
So often when we are presented with an obstacle, we fail to see it as an opportunity to let God’s glory be revealed in and through us. We stand before the altar, more aware of the taunting voices inside and around us rather than realizing the abundant power that is available to us if we only seek and trust in God! Elijah stood sure and confident in the presence of the Almighty, and He came through mightily. Fire fell down on the altar, consuming water, wood, stones, and all. God showed up in all of His glory and power, and the people bowed in reverence to the authentic, living God.
I find myself frequently confining myself, and God, to my comfort zone. If an obstacle or issue in my life seems too overwhelming, I tell God that I can’t handle it. What I fail to grasp is that HE CAN HANDLE ANYTHING. I should embrace obstacles as opportunities to allow God to shine in and through me. What does it matter how I feel about the improbabilities of a situation? My God is mighty to save, and His love conquers all. He will come through in all of His glory and might if I only rely and trust in His character and dependability. It is when I truly lay my fears, doubts, insecurities, worries, and desires on the altar along with the water that He is free to let His fire fall in all His glory and power and might.
What is most admirable about this account is Elijah’s heart, crying out to God to honor his devotion to God’s call, that those people may turn their hearts back to God as well. With such sincerity and honest intention, Elijah comes to God, asking that He bless Elijah’s dedication and draw a lost people back into reverence and worship. I yearn for that---to pursue God wholeheartedly, that He would see that my desires are purely for His Kingdom to come as it has come graciously unto me. His relentless love is evident in Elijah’s life, and I pray it will be evident in mine as well.
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
desire draws us to Him!
(this is something I wrote last week but forgot to post...enjoy. :)
Let’s talk about desire.
As I am preparing to speak to high school girls about the search for identity, relationships, and pursuing God, I am reminded of the eternal desire in our hearts for Romance…for a validation that yes, we are worthy of being pursued, we are beautiful and captivating, and yes, we are worthy of noble love.
At any stage of life, there is the “comparison game.” Satan plagues our minds with messages of unworthiness, guilt, shame, and fear. Satan hates and opposes the fact that as men and women, we represent the strength and life-giving beauty of our awesome Father.
Thus comes the misconstrued perception of desire.
You see, we have the lesser desires…desires numbed by addiction, apathy, hiding. We have great desires, usually pursued through relationships, work, and even ministry. And then we encounter our greatest desire, which is only filled by God alone. All desires approached below our greatest desire point directly to that greatest desire---for our purpose and love is found in God alone.
In reference to high school girls (and even college ladies and beyond), I must say something that drove me crazy was when girls would say, “Who do you like? Well you have to like SOMEONE.” I strictly disagreed with this statement until I truly though about it. Yes, you must direct your affections towards someone. You are created so. The problem therein lies---are your affections reflecting your purest desires? Your affections are meant for GOD first and foremost! Something I pray about daily is the direction of my emotions and affections. If my affections are not honoring God and keeping Him first in my heart, I am sure to know of it by testing it. Lately I have been praying, “Father God, take these emotions away if they are not from You and if these do not bring You glory.”
In our society of instant gratification, we long for the instantaneous results yet never receive the long-term fulfillment. Why do so many relationships fail, and fail miserably? Because our validation is not coming from the One who made us valid in the first place.
We have failed to remember that anything worth having is worth waiting for. I am so disenchanted with modern relationships. Too often relationships are founded on feelings rather than authentic commitment. Too often relationships are flippant pursuits for value and worth; but if we are not secure in who we are as children of the King and in God’s validation, we will become parasitic members of a relationship, offering nothing and seeking a fleeting, unattainable sense of purpose not available in human form.
It is so vital to the health of your spirit and to the health of your future relationship with your beloved that you seek out your identity in God. Only He can ever answer your heart’s question with the affirmation you so desire. You must have vision and the tenacity to see that only when you are captivating in a Romance with Christ can you ever freely offer your strength and beauty to another. It is only when you have the discernment of God in you by drawing near to His heart that you can confidently embark into a relationship with another.
My life has been completely transformed since the moment I honestly came to our Father with all of my desire and need, laying it all down in obedience. When I said, “Abba, I want what YOU want for me! Take away anything in my life that does not align with Your holy, lovely, perfect plan for my life,” He met me there and continues to hold me in His hands, in His divine and awesome love. It takes much hard word and dedication to allow Him to work in and through our wounds and yearnings, but when He does, it is SO authentically FULFILLING! It is then that our desires finally align with His---and the true adventure begins.
My desire now is to relentlessly pursue holiness and discernment in my life; to lead a life of love that brings healing and restoration to those who can’t comprehend the depth of the goodness of God. I don’t want any thing or any relationship in my midst unless it is pure and righteous and honorable. Satan opposed this truth---that God offers unconditional joy and immearsurable love, that in and through Jesus we are offered ABUNDANT and thriving life, and abundant and thriving relationships. We must fight to attain and maintain such precious connections, for the “enemy prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”
Trust in God’s providence and goodness. Pursue Him relentlessly. Let Him romance you. Be validated and found in His redemptive grace. Know that God says, “I am enough for you until I decide to give you someone who gives you more of Me.”
Sit in desire and WAIT for Him to fill it!!!
God will meet you and your desires wherever you are at. And then, rest! Know that He will provide. Seek Him continuously.
And a last note on relationships, as I have been seeking God’s heart on the issue…when it does come time for God to lead you into a relationship with someone, be careful to discern much about them. As a preliminary focus, God has shown me qualities that are mandatory for me to find in a man. He has also helped me to create a list of commitments I am making as well when it comes to being a woman of God, a beautiful, captivating, encourager and journey partner.
My Beloved:
Will have the utmost integrity.
Will be humble yet confident in the man God created him to be.
Will guard my emotions, purity, and wellbeing with all that he is, as well as guard his own purity and emotions.
Will be the leader of our relationship and be careful and wise to keep our teamwork focused on God and his call for out lives.
Will stand out from the crowd with his leadership, joy, love, etc. People will notice the fruits of the Spirit vibrantly shining in and through his life.
Will set an example of righteousness, chivalry, respect, strength, integrity, love, joy, peace, and compassion.
Will delight in me as God delights in His bride, the church.
Will patiently pursue me.
Will have a call from God aligned with mine.
Will have a foundation firmly built upon the Rock.
Will learn from his mistakes and maintain a focus solely on his God.
Will be attentive, sensitive, and aware of potential stumbling blocks and obstacles, and will seek God in all things.
Will be able to discuss politics, football, and God with my dad. My dad will find no reasons to doubt in My Beloved’s character, and will be like a best friend and father to him.
Will earn the approval of my dad and my best friend Matt.
Will be organized as I am and clean as well.
Will be faithful and trusting of God’s might, power, and call, but logical as well.
Will be wise.
Will be skilled with conflict resolution; he will address issues before they become bigger problems.
Will be dependable. I know I can rely and trust in him to come through for me.
Will not put himself in compromising or tempting situations.
Will be resourceful.
Will relentlessly pursue holiness.
Will be discerning.
Will exude encouragement and support.
Will be strong yet have a gentle spirit as well.
Will exude joy and purposefulness, an authentic charisma of one anointed in the Holy Spirit.
As his beloved:
My identity and validation is found in Christ alone. He is my Savior, Redeemer, Romancer, and All-in-All.
I will keep my studies/call first and foremost. I will make sure he keeps his studies/call first as well.
I will put our individual relationships with God as our number one priorities. NOTHING will come in the way. I will not spend time with him until we have both sought God.
I will guard and protect his purity. I will not be a stumbling block to him.
I will encourage him, respect him, and use my words only to lovingly build him up.
My joy will ALWAYS remain in my God, and not in my man. My joy in God will radiate into the life of my man. And vice versa.
I will not put myself in compromising/tempting situations.
I will have my foundation firmly built upon the Rock.
I will learn from my mistakes and maintain my focus solely on God.
I will be attentive, sensitive, and aware of potential stumbling blocks and obstacles, and will seek God in all things.
I will relentlessly pursue holiness.
This most assuredly does not encapsulate all of the wisdom I know God wants to speak into our lives, but it is what He has been speaking to me lately.
My hope is that YOU will find the authentic, captivating healing and freedom offered in the loving arms of our God. Seek Him with your whole heart, and you will find Him with your whole heart.
I promise, it’s the greatest adventure. Fight for it. :)
Let’s talk about desire.
As I am preparing to speak to high school girls about the search for identity, relationships, and pursuing God, I am reminded of the eternal desire in our hearts for Romance…for a validation that yes, we are worthy of being pursued, we are beautiful and captivating, and yes, we are worthy of noble love.
At any stage of life, there is the “comparison game.” Satan plagues our minds with messages of unworthiness, guilt, shame, and fear. Satan hates and opposes the fact that as men and women, we represent the strength and life-giving beauty of our awesome Father.
Thus comes the misconstrued perception of desire.
You see, we have the lesser desires…desires numbed by addiction, apathy, hiding. We have great desires, usually pursued through relationships, work, and even ministry. And then we encounter our greatest desire, which is only filled by God alone. All desires approached below our greatest desire point directly to that greatest desire---for our purpose and love is found in God alone.
In reference to high school girls (and even college ladies and beyond), I must say something that drove me crazy was when girls would say, “Who do you like? Well you have to like SOMEONE.” I strictly disagreed with this statement until I truly though about it. Yes, you must direct your affections towards someone. You are created so. The problem therein lies---are your affections reflecting your purest desires? Your affections are meant for GOD first and foremost! Something I pray about daily is the direction of my emotions and affections. If my affections are not honoring God and keeping Him first in my heart, I am sure to know of it by testing it. Lately I have been praying, “Father God, take these emotions away if they are not from You and if these do not bring You glory.”
In our society of instant gratification, we long for the instantaneous results yet never receive the long-term fulfillment. Why do so many relationships fail, and fail miserably? Because our validation is not coming from the One who made us valid in the first place.
We have failed to remember that anything worth having is worth waiting for. I am so disenchanted with modern relationships. Too often relationships are founded on feelings rather than authentic commitment. Too often relationships are flippant pursuits for value and worth; but if we are not secure in who we are as children of the King and in God’s validation, we will become parasitic members of a relationship, offering nothing and seeking a fleeting, unattainable sense of purpose not available in human form.
It is so vital to the health of your spirit and to the health of your future relationship with your beloved that you seek out your identity in God. Only He can ever answer your heart’s question with the affirmation you so desire. You must have vision and the tenacity to see that only when you are captivating in a Romance with Christ can you ever freely offer your strength and beauty to another. It is only when you have the discernment of God in you by drawing near to His heart that you can confidently embark into a relationship with another.
My life has been completely transformed since the moment I honestly came to our Father with all of my desire and need, laying it all down in obedience. When I said, “Abba, I want what YOU want for me! Take away anything in my life that does not align with Your holy, lovely, perfect plan for my life,” He met me there and continues to hold me in His hands, in His divine and awesome love. It takes much hard word and dedication to allow Him to work in and through our wounds and yearnings, but when He does, it is SO authentically FULFILLING! It is then that our desires finally align with His---and the true adventure begins.
My desire now is to relentlessly pursue holiness and discernment in my life; to lead a life of love that brings healing and restoration to those who can’t comprehend the depth of the goodness of God. I don’t want any thing or any relationship in my midst unless it is pure and righteous and honorable. Satan opposed this truth---that God offers unconditional joy and immearsurable love, that in and through Jesus we are offered ABUNDANT and thriving life, and abundant and thriving relationships. We must fight to attain and maintain such precious connections, for the “enemy prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”
Trust in God’s providence and goodness. Pursue Him relentlessly. Let Him romance you. Be validated and found in His redemptive grace. Know that God says, “I am enough for you until I decide to give you someone who gives you more of Me.”
Sit in desire and WAIT for Him to fill it!!!
God will meet you and your desires wherever you are at. And then, rest! Know that He will provide. Seek Him continuously.
And a last note on relationships, as I have been seeking God’s heart on the issue…when it does come time for God to lead you into a relationship with someone, be careful to discern much about them. As a preliminary focus, God has shown me qualities that are mandatory for me to find in a man. He has also helped me to create a list of commitments I am making as well when it comes to being a woman of God, a beautiful, captivating, encourager and journey partner.
My Beloved:
Will have the utmost integrity.
Will be humble yet confident in the man God created him to be.
Will guard my emotions, purity, and wellbeing with all that he is, as well as guard his own purity and emotions.
Will be the leader of our relationship and be careful and wise to keep our teamwork focused on God and his call for out lives.
Will stand out from the crowd with his leadership, joy, love, etc. People will notice the fruits of the Spirit vibrantly shining in and through his life.
Will set an example of righteousness, chivalry, respect, strength, integrity, love, joy, peace, and compassion.
Will delight in me as God delights in His bride, the church.
Will patiently pursue me.
Will have a call from God aligned with mine.
Will have a foundation firmly built upon the Rock.
Will learn from his mistakes and maintain a focus solely on his God.
Will be attentive, sensitive, and aware of potential stumbling blocks and obstacles, and will seek God in all things.
Will be able to discuss politics, football, and God with my dad. My dad will find no reasons to doubt in My Beloved’s character, and will be like a best friend and father to him.
Will earn the approval of my dad and my best friend Matt.
Will be organized as I am and clean as well.
Will be faithful and trusting of God’s might, power, and call, but logical as well.
Will be wise.
Will be skilled with conflict resolution; he will address issues before they become bigger problems.
Will be dependable. I know I can rely and trust in him to come through for me.
Will not put himself in compromising or tempting situations.
Will be resourceful.
Will relentlessly pursue holiness.
Will be discerning.
Will exude encouragement and support.
Will be strong yet have a gentle spirit as well.
Will exude joy and purposefulness, an authentic charisma of one anointed in the Holy Spirit.
As his beloved:
My identity and validation is found in Christ alone. He is my Savior, Redeemer, Romancer, and All-in-All.
I will keep my studies/call first and foremost. I will make sure he keeps his studies/call first as well.
I will put our individual relationships with God as our number one priorities. NOTHING will come in the way. I will not spend time with him until we have both sought God.
I will guard and protect his purity. I will not be a stumbling block to him.
I will encourage him, respect him, and use my words only to lovingly build him up.
My joy will ALWAYS remain in my God, and not in my man. My joy in God will radiate into the life of my man. And vice versa.
I will not put myself in compromising/tempting situations.
I will have my foundation firmly built upon the Rock.
I will learn from my mistakes and maintain my focus solely on God.
I will be attentive, sensitive, and aware of potential stumbling blocks and obstacles, and will seek God in all things.
I will relentlessly pursue holiness.
This most assuredly does not encapsulate all of the wisdom I know God wants to speak into our lives, but it is what He has been speaking to me lately.
My hope is that YOU will find the authentic, captivating healing and freedom offered in the loving arms of our God. Seek Him with your whole heart, and you will find Him with your whole heart.
I promise, it’s the greatest adventure. Fight for it. :)
Thursday, November 19, 2009
His Philosophy on Love.
So here’s the picture in my head: God. Desperate. God desperately YEARNING for my affection, my attention, my love.
And me. Playing with mud pies.
God keeps drawing me back to this C.S. Lewis quote:
“Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered to us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
Many of you read my previous blog, “My Philosophy on Relationships.” I suppose you could call this a sequel.
It’s not about finding the “right one.” It’s about finding a vibrant, captivating, adventurous love story in AND with Christ.
Lately I’ve been caught up in this fictitious mindset that once I fall in love with God and get all of these ideas He gives me sorted out, then my love story with a man will fall in place. False. I need not worry about that. I need not even entertain the thought. Why am I not captivated in my relationship with Christ? Something is obviously wrong. I am wrong.
My God is so enthralled with us, His beautiful, strong creation….He is so desperate seeking our HEARTS, our ATTENTION, our TIME. Like we search for lovers, our God searches for us. Yet we come to Him merely when we need Him, when we want Him, when He fits into our schedules. We pencil in our quiet times. We set dates and appointments.
How do you feel when you are IN LOVE with someone?
You want them desperately. You need them. You have to have them near. You think of them constantly. They bring you joy and hope and peace and security and protection and rest. You call, text, show your appreciation. You delight in him/her.
God says “Delight yourself in the Lord…and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
Stop fixating on the desires of your heart.
Start fixating on HIM.
And then your desires will begin to align with His.
I want to be so passionately in love with the true Lover of our souls that nothing and no one else competes for my attention and devotion because He has already won me over.
And the man God eventually draws me to WILL be the same…for it is a teamwork built with the same foundation and framework that survives and THRIVES.
I can’t get this image out of my mind: God with His arms desperately outstretched toward His love, His bride, His creation. Desperate is defined as, “having a great desire for something.” The very connotation gives off a sense of risk, of a willingness to go against all odds to fight for someone or something. That’s God’s love for us. His love for you. His love for me.
Have you ever sat and truly absorbed the depth of God’s desperate love for you? How He fought to HELL and back to win the CHANCE for your heart, your life. It floors me. I find my desires so minimal and weak in the area of love when compared to the absolute purity and fight God has put into pursuing me. How could I not return my ALL?
So there it is. All laid out. Let it sink in: God is RELENTLESSLY pursuing you. And He won’t stop. He won’t relent. He is AFTER YOUR HEART.
Here we are getting messy in mud pie relationships, our lame attempts with our fleeting emotions…when the Creator of the universes wants to overflow our lives with the most perfect, romantic, pure, captivating, wild love.
We are far too easily pleased.
…He rescued me because he delighted in me. (2 Sam. 22:20)
Seek Him first. (Matthew 6:33-34)
Seek Him. He is seeking you.
And let us stop making mud pies---let us go on that holiday at the sea.
And me. Playing with mud pies.
God keeps drawing me back to this C.S. Lewis quote:
“Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered to us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
Many of you read my previous blog, “My Philosophy on Relationships.” I suppose you could call this a sequel.
It’s not about finding the “right one.” It’s about finding a vibrant, captivating, adventurous love story in AND with Christ.
Lately I’ve been caught up in this fictitious mindset that once I fall in love with God and get all of these ideas He gives me sorted out, then my love story with a man will fall in place. False. I need not worry about that. I need not even entertain the thought. Why am I not captivated in my relationship with Christ? Something is obviously wrong. I am wrong.
My God is so enthralled with us, His beautiful, strong creation….He is so desperate seeking our HEARTS, our ATTENTION, our TIME. Like we search for lovers, our God searches for us. Yet we come to Him merely when we need Him, when we want Him, when He fits into our schedules. We pencil in our quiet times. We set dates and appointments.
How do you feel when you are IN LOVE with someone?
You want them desperately. You need them. You have to have them near. You think of them constantly. They bring you joy and hope and peace and security and protection and rest. You call, text, show your appreciation. You delight in him/her.
God says “Delight yourself in the Lord…and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
Stop fixating on the desires of your heart.
Start fixating on HIM.
And then your desires will begin to align with His.
I want to be so passionately in love with the true Lover of our souls that nothing and no one else competes for my attention and devotion because He has already won me over.
And the man God eventually draws me to WILL be the same…for it is a teamwork built with the same foundation and framework that survives and THRIVES.
I can’t get this image out of my mind: God with His arms desperately outstretched toward His love, His bride, His creation. Desperate is defined as, “having a great desire for something.” The very connotation gives off a sense of risk, of a willingness to go against all odds to fight for someone or something. That’s God’s love for us. His love for you. His love for me.
Have you ever sat and truly absorbed the depth of God’s desperate love for you? How He fought to HELL and back to win the CHANCE for your heart, your life. It floors me. I find my desires so minimal and weak in the area of love when compared to the absolute purity and fight God has put into pursuing me. How could I not return my ALL?
So there it is. All laid out. Let it sink in: God is RELENTLESSLY pursuing you. And He won’t stop. He won’t relent. He is AFTER YOUR HEART.
Here we are getting messy in mud pie relationships, our lame attempts with our fleeting emotions…when the Creator of the universes wants to overflow our lives with the most perfect, romantic, pure, captivating, wild love.
We are far too easily pleased.
…He rescued me because he delighted in me. (2 Sam. 22:20)
Seek Him first. (Matthew 6:33-34)
Seek Him. He is seeking you.
And let us stop making mud pies---let us go on that holiday at the sea.
My Philosophy on Relationships.
Especially in the collegiate season of life, I find more than ever that many of my peers seem to be seeking their “MR” and “MRS” degrees, as often joked. I.e., most people are bent on finding Mr. Right and Mrs. Right.
It drives me absolutely insane.
I feel such pressure to be in a relationship and to ‘like’ somebody, as if it would somehow fulfill me and validate me. Which is absolutely ludicrous.
This has been a very prevalent topic on my heart lately. As I’ve sought out God’s heart on this subject, this is the wisdom I’ve drawn:
A majority of relationships today are self-seeking. You aren’t usually drawn to a person because you want to serve and bless them. You are drawn to someone and how that someone makes you feel. You are drawn to a person who makes you feel good enough, strong enough, handsome/beautiful enough, able. Someone who inspires you. Nothing is wrong with that, but it is wrong that people enter relationships solely on the premise that it will validate who they are by dating this ‘someone,’ that it will fulfill the longing ache for authentic love. We wonder why the divorce rate is so high and why domestic violence abounds; why don’t we look at the HEART of the matter? It’s because very few are in relationships for pure reasons. It’s because we live in a society of instant-gratification that offers no long-term fulfillment.
We have an innate desire for relationship; it’s how God created us, to be in a magnificent relationship with Him. We have no perception of that quite often, and rather flounder about seeking that understanding and connectivity. From relationship to relationship to relationship, people are seeking that unattainable feeling, that elusive person. We approach it all wrong.
1. Find your validity and identity in a beautiful, thriving, personal relationship with God.
2. Be the type of person your ideal ‘someone’ would be attracted to.
You can’t expect to win over the man/lady of your dreams in you don’t first reassess yourself first. Are you the type of person that dreamboat would be attracted to as well? Do you even know what qualities you are seeking in another? Personally, I want someone who is patient enough to pursue me. Someone who will fight for the opportunity to be let into my precious, guarded heart. Someone who challenges me to be a better person. Someone with a servant’s heart; a man who always puts others above himself, who is humble, compassionate, and has a love that makes me constantly revaluate my own love. A man grounded and confident only in God. I want to have a relationship with a man who draws me closer to God---a man who is so in tune with our incredible Father that I literally thirst for the holy presence of my God whenever I’m with this man. A man who holds me accountable and challenges me to dream bigger, trust more and love more. A chivalrous man who gives me such respect and adoration that I am humbled by his pure intent and protection over me and my purity. A man who puts my personal joy and wellbeing above his own. A devoted man who is captivated not only by my aesthetic beauty, but my soulish beauty as well. I WILL NOT ‘DATE’ A GUY UNLESS HE IS EVERY OUNCE OF WHAT I JUST TYPED. I will only even think of dating a guy if he is more interested in God than he is in me. I want to not hold a flame to his love and devotion for God. I will settle for nothing less.
Now, in turn, am I the type of lady who will attract this type of fellow I desire?
That’s a hard question to pose. I ponder it daily.
You see, when we’re completely immersed in God’s love, we do not need to search any longer for that elusive ‘someone’ or ‘thing.’ You’re content, you’re fulfilled. So what does an earthly relationship matter? Only when God has consumed your life, your thoughts, and your desired can you ever successfully maintain any other thriving relationship.
There’s a quote that states, “A girl should be so lost in God that a guy must seek Him to find her.” I want to be so FOUND in God that a guy has to seek Him to find me. My dad, an amazing man of God who is an incredible blessing to me, always tells me that the more you have in common with someone, the more money you have in the ‘bank.’ Though opposites may attract, they don’t always last. The more your share in common with someone, the better off your relationship will be, especially in reference to your belief system and future dreams/plans/enthusiasms. I want to have a relationship with someone who I can confidently and lovingly call my best friend as well, someone who is grounded and fulfilled in God alone as I am.
I want God to be proud of me and my love story.
One of the best aspects of this whole idea is that it’s alright and even expected that we’ll make mistakes, we’ll screw up. But what’s truly lovely is that God redeems and restores EVERYTHING to be made new when we ask for it. Sure, I’ve made huge relationship mistakes in my past. I’ve learned though, and gained all of this insight from it.
It’s only when we’re passionately abandoned to the true Lover of our souls that we can ever safely trust another with our hearts. Finding the ‘right one’ takes patience, for God’s time frame isn’t like ours. We screw it all up when we think we’re in control, but it’s really only when God is leading our relationships that they are authentically vibrant and blessed. I want to be so SURE of the guy I marry, that he is indeed the man God has called me to, that it is blatantly EVIDENT that we were meant for one another. Through much prayer and assured confirmation, I will pursue a relationship eventually, whenever God has planned. I want a relationship that others admire, like “wow, they LOVE EACH OTHER so truly and passionately. They’re actually JOYFUL when they’re together. What is so different about them and their love?” I want a relationship that I can rest peacefully in, in which we never stop appreciating one another and how special and rare our relationship is.
This is just my philosophy on relationships for myself, and I most assuredly respect all of you who have different theories! This is just my take on it.
In conclusion…I will wait for my beloved.
It drives me absolutely insane.
I feel such pressure to be in a relationship and to ‘like’ somebody, as if it would somehow fulfill me and validate me. Which is absolutely ludicrous.
This has been a very prevalent topic on my heart lately. As I’ve sought out God’s heart on this subject, this is the wisdom I’ve drawn:
A majority of relationships today are self-seeking. You aren’t usually drawn to a person because you want to serve and bless them. You are drawn to someone and how that someone makes you feel. You are drawn to a person who makes you feel good enough, strong enough, handsome/beautiful enough, able. Someone who inspires you. Nothing is wrong with that, but it is wrong that people enter relationships solely on the premise that it will validate who they are by dating this ‘someone,’ that it will fulfill the longing ache for authentic love. We wonder why the divorce rate is so high and why domestic violence abounds; why don’t we look at the HEART of the matter? It’s because very few are in relationships for pure reasons. It’s because we live in a society of instant-gratification that offers no long-term fulfillment.
We have an innate desire for relationship; it’s how God created us, to be in a magnificent relationship with Him. We have no perception of that quite often, and rather flounder about seeking that understanding and connectivity. From relationship to relationship to relationship, people are seeking that unattainable feeling, that elusive person. We approach it all wrong.
1. Find your validity and identity in a beautiful, thriving, personal relationship with God.
2. Be the type of person your ideal ‘someone’ would be attracted to.
You can’t expect to win over the man/lady of your dreams in you don’t first reassess yourself first. Are you the type of person that dreamboat would be attracted to as well? Do you even know what qualities you are seeking in another? Personally, I want someone who is patient enough to pursue me. Someone who will fight for the opportunity to be let into my precious, guarded heart. Someone who challenges me to be a better person. Someone with a servant’s heart; a man who always puts others above himself, who is humble, compassionate, and has a love that makes me constantly revaluate my own love. A man grounded and confident only in God. I want to have a relationship with a man who draws me closer to God---a man who is so in tune with our incredible Father that I literally thirst for the holy presence of my God whenever I’m with this man. A man who holds me accountable and challenges me to dream bigger, trust more and love more. A chivalrous man who gives me such respect and adoration that I am humbled by his pure intent and protection over me and my purity. A man who puts my personal joy and wellbeing above his own. A devoted man who is captivated not only by my aesthetic beauty, but my soulish beauty as well. I WILL NOT ‘DATE’ A GUY UNLESS HE IS EVERY OUNCE OF WHAT I JUST TYPED. I will only even think of dating a guy if he is more interested in God than he is in me. I want to not hold a flame to his love and devotion for God. I will settle for nothing less.
Now, in turn, am I the type of lady who will attract this type of fellow I desire?
That’s a hard question to pose. I ponder it daily.
You see, when we’re completely immersed in God’s love, we do not need to search any longer for that elusive ‘someone’ or ‘thing.’ You’re content, you’re fulfilled. So what does an earthly relationship matter? Only when God has consumed your life, your thoughts, and your desired can you ever successfully maintain any other thriving relationship.
There’s a quote that states, “A girl should be so lost in God that a guy must seek Him to find her.” I want to be so FOUND in God that a guy has to seek Him to find me. My dad, an amazing man of God who is an incredible blessing to me, always tells me that the more you have in common with someone, the more money you have in the ‘bank.’ Though opposites may attract, they don’t always last. The more your share in common with someone, the better off your relationship will be, especially in reference to your belief system and future dreams/plans/enthusiasms. I want to have a relationship with someone who I can confidently and lovingly call my best friend as well, someone who is grounded and fulfilled in God alone as I am.
I want God to be proud of me and my love story.
One of the best aspects of this whole idea is that it’s alright and even expected that we’ll make mistakes, we’ll screw up. But what’s truly lovely is that God redeems and restores EVERYTHING to be made new when we ask for it. Sure, I’ve made huge relationship mistakes in my past. I’ve learned though, and gained all of this insight from it.
It’s only when we’re passionately abandoned to the true Lover of our souls that we can ever safely trust another with our hearts. Finding the ‘right one’ takes patience, for God’s time frame isn’t like ours. We screw it all up when we think we’re in control, but it’s really only when God is leading our relationships that they are authentically vibrant and blessed. I want to be so SURE of the guy I marry, that he is indeed the man God has called me to, that it is blatantly EVIDENT that we were meant for one another. Through much prayer and assured confirmation, I will pursue a relationship eventually, whenever God has planned. I want a relationship that others admire, like “wow, they LOVE EACH OTHER so truly and passionately. They’re actually JOYFUL when they’re together. What is so different about them and their love?” I want a relationship that I can rest peacefully in, in which we never stop appreciating one another and how special and rare our relationship is.
This is just my philosophy on relationships for myself, and I most assuredly respect all of you who have different theories! This is just my take on it.
In conclusion…I will wait for my beloved.
My Credo.
This is what I shall do: Live life abundantly, love with my whole heart, exude joy, walk with purpose and passion, believe and persevere when the world tells me to give up, stretch myself out of my comfort zone, dream without limits, speak out for those who have lost their voices, see each person I encounter through the eyes of God, appreciate each day, count my blessings instead of my losses, forgive with grace, see the lessons in mistakes, develop authentic relationships, seek fulfillment through facilitating renewal in others and not in the “American Dream,” and lead a revolution of hope.
I will walk in Truth through a world of fiction. :)
I will walk in Truth through a world of fiction. :)
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